Here’s How You Can Help a Loved One Cope with Suicide

Four years ago, Ankita Shah* lost her father to suicide. For a long time after his death, she was in shock and felt lonely despite the support of her immediate family. It was only after she began seeing a mental health professional that her emotional state improved.

In India, more than 2.3 lakh people die due to suicide each year which means more than two lakh families have stories like Ankita’s. Their stories follow similar patterns: loneliness, shame, social stigma and isolation, guilt and several unanswered questions.

The stigma runs deep, and insensitive remarks are common after such a death.

Milind and Manisha Mhaiskar highlighted this in 2017, through an open letter they wrote to their deceased son in a newspaper.

Some said you were very strict with him, some said you gave too much liberty, could he not carry on with the burden of expectations?… Some said both [parents] are so busy, they may not be giving him time… you, me and mammu [mother], that was our world, how do we tell that to people?

Such comments can explain why not everyone is as candid as the Mhaiskar family. Ankita, for instance, didn’t want to speak about her father initially, and friends and family also kept a distance. This is why, she believes, it is time to talk about suicide. “If we are more open, we help people cope with their loss, and we help erase the shame,” says Ankita.

Reading therapist launches book to help children cope with grief

Author Wendy Picken has given free copies of her book, It’s Not Fair! to local hospices and will donate 10 per cent of the profits to support the work of local bereavement charity Daisy’s Dream.

Wendy has enjoyed a long career providing therapeutic support to children and their families, and in recent years has specialized in helping children who have been bereaved.

While the idea for It’s Not Fair! was born out of her frustration at the lack of children’s literature addressing the issue of death, it also reflects her understanding of how stories can help adults engage children at a time of loss.

Wendy also received help with the book from her co-author Jane Foulkes, an experienced psychotherapist, and her mother-in-law Jenny Picken provided beautiful illustrations to help children who respond to visual forms of communication.

The first section of the book helps identify the common emotions that children can experience following the loss of a person close to them, while the remaining sections of the book introduce Frankie, a little girl who is very sad about missing her mum, and Albie, who is very angry following his dad’s death.

Raising Pro-Life Children in a Culture of Death

The latest sound bytes coming out of New York and Virginia have caused most of us terrible grief, as we look up from our day-to-day lives and recognize that our country really has turned into a culture of death. So many facets of our society proclaim that human life …

1. Teach them that human beings are different from the rest of creation. Our kids need to learn from an early age that human beings are special. Not only were we created in the image of the creator God, we were also created for relationship with Him. We have souls that will never die, and we were appointed to look after and take care of the rest of His creation. Every human life is precious because we are a reflection of our Creator. Our children need to understand that all the animals in the world, as sweet as they can be, are not as precious as a single human life. (Genesis 1:26-27, Mark 12:30)

2. Teach them about abortion. Our children need to know that abortion exists. They need to know that there are people in our country who make it their life mission to see abortion widely accepted and regularly utilized. Even younger children can understand the concept, and they will unequivocally recognize that it is wrong. We can use abortion as an opportunity to show our children how wicked the human heart really is, how bent toward sin it is, and how easily and quickly we try to justify our sins. With older children, we can show them examples of the kind of rhetoric that would try to convince them that abortion is none of their business. Then we can teach them otherwise. (Jeremiah 17:9, Romans 3:23)

Ways to Live with grief in this season of love

It seems that in February, everyone is talking about love – it’s a sentimental season with thoughts of romance and togetherness, with Valentine’s Day at the heart of it all.

But if you’re grieving after the loss of a partner, this retail and media messaging around the season of love can amplify your sense of loss and loneliness. Add to that the dark and dreary winter days and even greater sadness can follow.

The good news is that February’s arrival also brings a little more daylight, and the promise of spring just around the corner, says Julie Evans, from Sands Funeral Chapel in Colwood.

“Spring brings us new beginnings with a sense of renewal and hope,” Evans says.

Having helped many families through holidays and special occasions following a loss, Evans shares a few ideas to make the season a little easier:“I think it’s important to plan how you’re going to get through the day,” she says.

  • Make arrangements with friends to get out of the house – Plan a lunch out or a potluck dinner, take in a movie, or meet for a walk at a favourite park.
  • Get active and …

How can HR help workers grapple with the death of a colleague?

When SurveyMonkey’s then-CEO Dave Goldberg died suddenly in May 2015, the company he left behind faced tremendous grief, Chief People Officer Becky Cantieri recalled. “As an organization of more than 650 people at the time, we suffered a pretty significant loss,” she told HR Dive in an interview. “It was an experience that not very many other companies had gone through or could lend any advice on.”

Collectively, SurveyMonkey walked a difficult but emotionally honest path as it healed from its trauma. Company leaders agreed quickly that they would share their grief with employees, treating the situation with the utmost transparency, Cantieri, who had been recruited to SurveyMonkey by Goldberg, said. “We addressed employees first thing Monday morning after his Friday passing.” she said. “We acknowledged in front of all employees that this was a tremendous loss; that, as a leadership team, we were pretty devastated by the loss, and that we were going to take the time to grieve and take care of each other for a period of time.”

In today’s job market the competition for talent is fierce and turnover is costly. Dive into the latest findings in the Pulse of Talent report to understand what drives employees to consider jumping ship, and what it takes to keep talent engaged.

How Play therapy can help children heal

Play therapy is an evidence-based practice designed to helps a child build a greater sense of self. Erin Hassall gets to play on the job. A lot. Hassall, the services manager for the Family Support Center in Spencerport Central School District, is a licensed marriage and family therapist and […]

When Hassall started at the Center 10 years ago, she was one of two counselors who provided short- and long-term counseling and relied primarily on talk therapy. That method works for junior high and high school students who are older, but elementary children are different. Hassall recalls an early encounter that permanently changed how she interacted with younger children.

“I was trying to do talk therapy with a kindergartner, but he just wanted to play,” she says. “It was my first year working with elementary students and I felt ill-equipped.”

It’s been recognized that elementary students lack the vocabulary and maturity to verbally articulate what’s bothering them. At these ages, children use play to express any difficulties they are facing.

Hassall saw only one solution: Become a registered play therapist. Getting the title required hours of dedication. She had to attend numerous college classes, participate in multiple workshops and hire a supervisor to oversee her play therapy hours.

Grieving? Don’t overlook potential side effects of your Grief

Stress and grief

Grieving takes a toll on the body in the form of stress. “That affects the whole body and all organ systems, and especially the immune system,” Dr. Malin says. Evidence suggests that immune cell function falls and inflammatory responses rise in people who are grieving. That may be why people often get sick more often and use more health care resources during this period.

But why is stress so hard on us? It’s because the body unleashes a flood of stress hormones that can make many existing conditions worse, such as heart failure or diabetes, or lead to new conditions, such as high blood pressure or heartburn. Stress can also cause insomnia and changes in appetite.

Extreme stress, the kind experienced after the loss of a loved one, is associated with changes in heart muscle cells or coronary blood vessels (or both) that prevent the left ventricle from contracting effectively. It’s a condition called stress-induced cardiomyopathy, or broken-heart syndrome. The symptoms are similar to those of a heart attack: chest pain and …

Grief Help: Authors Start Book Series On Infertility

Despite all the medical approaches to infertility, two Chandler women think those who struggle with the problem might want to consider divine intervention.

That’s why Evangeline Colbert and Angela Williams wrote “Borrowed Hope: Sarah’s Story of Triumph Over Infertility” – the first in a series of books aimed at bringing comfort to women who have struggled with infertility and miscarriages by examining the struggles with infertility that are recounted in the Bible.

Colbert, a certified professional life coach, already wrote an earlier book on the subject, titled “A Seed of Hope: God’s Promises of Fertility,” and began working with Williams, a counselor and mediator, two years ago on the joint creation.

Now they’re working on publicizing that first joint effort, starting with a book-signing party at 2 p.m. Jan. 26 at Sunrise Faith Community Center, at 800 W. Galveston St., Chandler.

Both women think their own lives back up their encouragement and words of hope to women who struggle with infertility and miscarriages…

Source: Santan Sun News Staff

Grief Help: Hospital suites deal with parents’ grief

“Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is a very traumatic experience, so to be able to offer families the use of the suites is so important.”

New bereavement suites in Lincolnshire’s [Massachusetts] hospitals are helping to provide families with comfort and support following the death of a baby.

The new suites, already open at Lincoln County Hospital and soon to be opened at Pilgrim hospital, Boston, are there to make memories and give families a chance to grieve in a quiet, comfortable space away from the hospital.

To help with further development of the suites, the maternity team at Lincolnshire’s hospitals are asking for donations of items such as towels, clocks, pictures and un-opened toiletries.

The hospital trust’s Bereavement Midwife, Nicky Kirk said: “I am very proud to be able to offer families a dedicated bereavement suite.

“Losing a baby at any stage of pregnancy is a very traumatic experience, so to be able to offer families the use of the suites is so important.

“We have already received some amazing donations from staff and patients, for which we are very grateful.

“I really hope they can provide some comfort to anyone that may need them at a very distressing and emotional time.”

Grief Help: Oak Hills mother writes book on grief after son’s death

Shortly after Rhonda Crockett Logue’s son Jeremy died, Logue found herself at an unfamiliar bookstore, seemingly by chance.

As she perused the bookshelves, Logue found herself drawn to a particular book from a mother whose son had committed suicide. The book delved into the grieving process and how to cope with the passing of a loved one.

Suddenly, Logue knew what her next step would be — and who was responsible for it.

“Jeremy led me there,” Logue said. “He really wanted to share his story.”

Logue has since thrown herself into what she calls “channeling” her son’s “heavenly perspective” for the book, which was published last November. Titled “Jeremy Shares His Love From Above,” the book serves as a guide for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one.

“Jeremy is on a mission to assist people to not only get through grief, but to live their best life on earth,” Logue said. “Free from sorrow and from grief, because that is not living.”