A Neuroscientist used his Research to Heal from Grief using This

Our brain on gratitude

Neuroscientist Glenn Fox has dedicated his life to studying gratitude — how it improves our resilience, lowers stress, and boosts overall health. He’s an expert on the ability of gratitude to help us through tough times.

But on Thanksgiving in 2013, Fox was feeling anything but grateful. That’s because, just a few days before, he’d lost his mother to ovarian cancer.

Your brain on gratitude: How a neuroscientist used his research to heal from griefThe day after, going down to Starbucks for coffee and some pastries, “it was like the most intense experience ever. And I just thought, how am I even going to get through this? How am I even going to order?”

Fox was just months away from completing his Ph.D. on the neural bases of gratitude. He knew from his research how therapeutic gratitude can be — and how it could help him in his long journey recovering from grief. What he didn’t know was how to make that happen on a practical level.

“I thought, you know, I really need to put this into action,” he said. “I don’t want to be flattened by this forever. I don’t want this to define me.”

Jealous of the Angels – read this beautiful poem

Fox’s personal journey into the power of gratitude began after his mother’s diagnosis with stage 4 ovarian cancer. She was interested in his work, but also interested in how it could help her…

“Gratitude fits into a category of what we would call pro-social emotions, and these are emotions that orient us towards the welfare of others,” Simon-Thomas said. “It creates this kind of bond, this enduring sense of connection, with another person or another organism who we’re poised to cooperate with.”

That cooperation, Simon-Thomas said, has been key to our survival as a species.

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Jealous of the Angels

I didn’t know today would be our last
Or that I’d have to say goodbye to you so fast
I’m so numb, I can’t feel anymore
Prayin’ you’d just walk back through that door
And tell me that I was only dreamin’
You’re not really gone as long as I believe
There will be another angel
Around the throne tonight
Your love lives on inside of me,
And I will hold on tight
It’s not my place to question,
Only God knows why
I’m just jealous of the angels
Around the throne tonight
You always made my troubles feel so small
And you were always there to catch me when I’d fall
In a world where heroes come and go
Well God just took the only one I know
So I’ll hold you as close as I can
Longing for the day, when I see your face again
But until…

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Military families grieving loss attend seminar of healing

JACKSONVILLE, Fla. — Grief comes in all shapes and sizes, affecting any person from young to old and leaving an impact that could make hope seem unattainable.

When Bonnie Carroll founded the Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors, or TAPS, in 1994, she had her late husband Brigadier General Tom Carroll in mind.

Carroll turned her grief over her husband’s death in an Army plane crash to action, noting a lack of resources for grieving military families at the time.

“My husband was an Army officer, and he was a great leader,” Carroll said. “You know this is really something that he would do. It’s bringing people together, it’s finding a way forward. It’s letting people know that they’re life and service of their loved one is remembered.”

At the TAPS Southeast Regional Seminar and Good Grief Camp at the Hyatt Regency in Downtown Jacksonville this weekend, recently retired and active service members have volunteered as mentors for military children at the conference…

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OxyContin Crusader Is Making An Impact

Barbara Van Rooyan’s Purdue experience is a story of deception, sadness and frustration — yet when she tells it now, she emits a surprising spark of energy. That’s because Van Rooyan, part of the unlikely group of citizens who repeatedly took flailing swings at Purdue Pharma, is watching the giant fall.

Van Rooyan, who has studied the cases against Purdue closely, sees the paradox in the proffered settlement: Much of the payout would be financed by profits from the continued sale of OxyContin, under a new company that would be formed following a Chapter 11 bankruptcy.

More about Barbara’s story and crusade:

Michigan Mom starts podcast for grieving parents

A Grand Rapids [Michigan] mother couldn’t find a podcast focused on losing a child, so she started her own.

Dr. Marcy Larson’s 14-year-old son, Andy, died in a car crash on Aug. 15, 2018. The family was on US-131 near the West River Drive exit when their van was rear-ended.

As she wrote on her website titled Always Andy’s Mom, Larson found it nearly impossible to get through a book about grief.

Larson is a pediatrician and her husband is an anesthesiologist. He has a podcast focused on health care, so Larson hoped there would be one that could help her grapple with the debilitating grief.

“Because I really couldn’t find one, I just decided it’s up to me to start one….

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Our Hospice of South Central Indiana offers a Bereavement camp for children

Register by Sept. 9, 2019

Children who have experienced grief over the death of a person in their life can attend a camp to help them cope.

Our Hospice of South Central Indiana is offering Camp Eva, a half-day bereavement camp for children ages 5-12, 11:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sept. 14.

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Any child who has experienced the death of a significant person or persons in their lives is welcome and encouraged to attend. Camp Eva provides a structured and supportive environment for children to openly share their feelings and memories of their loved one.

Camp Eva will be at Columbus Youth Camp at 12454 West Youth Camp Road in Columbus.

Registration is open now and pre-registration is required by Sept. 9.

Registration materials are available on the Our Hospice website www.crh.org/service-centers/hospice/our-hospice-news-events/our-hospice-news/2019/06/03/camp-eva-bereavement-camp-for-kids-on-september-9-2019. A one hour parent/caregiver meeting is included as part of the camp.

Questions can be directed to Jessica Curd at 812-314-8044 or jcurd@crh.org.

Grief Help: TN Camp Helps Children of Fallen Soldiers Cope With Grief

Lorimar Cintron was 11 years old when her daddy died in a Boston hospital after being gravely wounded during an attack in Baghdad, where he served his country as an Army specialist.

Losing him is never far from her heart or mind, yet she has learned to stand on her own young feet and to help others like her.

Cintron is now a mentor at A Soldier’s Child Foundation, which offers care and consideration to children whose parents gave their lives in the line of duty.

The group runs an annual summer camp in Tennessee, where kids learn to conquer their fears and sadness by conquering the elements.

“First year I came to Journey Camp as a camper, I went through a really rough time in my life, and it really helped me spiritually and emotionally, and then after I was done, I realized how many people actually cared about me,” she said…

Grief Help: Using Writing to Help Us Process Our Sorrow

Using Writing to Help Us Process Our GriefEight months after John died, Neustadter started sending emails to his old Yahoo address, because “communicating with John was truly the only thing I wanted to do at that time,” she said. It gave her a way to keep the conversation alive.

“And it felt symbolic and ritualistic to send an actual letter out somewhere into the unknown,” Neustadter said.

Neustadter also used writing to make sense of John’s suicide—why did he turn to suicide? what signs did she miss? She wrote down everything about John that she could remember.

Writing gave Neustadter “some sense of purpose.” She wanted to write the book she wished she’d had: “a book about a young woman, effectively widowed at 29, struggling to make sense of the loss of her soul mate and why he took his life. There were a lot of parts to this, and I had a lot of questions. None of the books on grief that I found helped me with understanding how to navigate my loss.”

“If I could offer other women (or men) like myself a book that made them feel less alone and helped them navigate through traumatic grief, then maybe, just maybe, it would make my experience of John’s death worthwhile in some way.”

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I’ve Been to the Edge of Darkness

Sudden Loss: How to Cope When a Friend Dies SuddenlyI’ve been to the edge of darkness
in a world of endless nights.
I’ve seen what tragedy looks like
in the harshest corners of life.
And I’ve come back to tell you
that living is worth the fight.
We were not born to let darkness
overpower our inner light.
We exist to burn like stars
and illuminate the night.

~ Christy Ann Martine

Why Overcoming Divorce Grief Is So Hard

Divorce is complicated (and it sucks) because you’re faced with seemingly non-stop social, emotional, legal, financial, and the everyday challenges of your new life. Everything changes and not always for the better — at least at first. Of course, all these changes trigger grief which you may think you understand because you’ve grieved before. But overcoming divorce grief is completely different from getting over any other type of grief.

It’s different because you’re constantly reminded of the losses — and there are a lot of things you lose when you divorce. You lose your status as a spouse. You lose time with your kids. You lose the financial means you had together. You lose friends. You lose your dreams for the future.

You lose so very many things that you’ll subtly and obviously be reminded of…

  • when you look at your beautiful child and see the resemblance to your ex…