How do I pay for Hospice Care?

Answers to 6 common questions about Hospice Care

Paying for hospice care shouldn’t be a financial burden. And, in most cases, it doesn’t have to be. Hospice care is covered by Medicare, Medicaid, and most private insurances, making it affordable for almost everyone.

Not convinced? Read below for answers to some of the most common questions people have about hospice care and the Medicare Hospice Benefit.

1. Who is eligible for hospice benefits?

An individual is eligible to receive hospice benefits if they are certified by two doctors (typically their family physician or specialist and the hospice medical director) as having six months or less to live if their illness follows its natural course.

2. What services are covered by Medicare and other insurers?

Hospice is designed to provide patients and families with high-quality end-of-life care and support. Coverage usually includes a wide range of services, such as…

Examining fathers’ grief after miscarriage

Fathers’ grief after a miscarriage is often overlooked. A trio of doctoral counseling students in the William & Mary School of Education set out to rectify that, and published the results of their interviews with fathers in a 2018 issue of The Family Journal.

The team interviewed 11 married fathers who had experienced a miscarriage.

“I have found that much of the writing within counseling research and also within grief and loss literature focuses on women and mothers. As such, I wanted to fill in this gap,” said Nathaniel Wagner Ph.D. ’18, now an assistant professor of counseling at Indiana State University. “I have not personally experienced miscarriage, but many of my friends and family have. I see this as an area of disenfranchised grief for both of the parents and I want to bring a voice to this loss.”

Wagner and his coauthors, Victor Tuazon Ph.D. ’18 and Colin Vaughn ’13, M.Ed. ’15, Ph.D. ’19, identified several common themes in the fathers’ interviews. They concluded that several factors impacted fathers’ grief, including the meaning and expectations fathers had for fatherhood, whether they had observed movements such as heartbeats and whether the miscarriage occurred at home or in a more controlled medical setting.

Finally, the article identifies, through the fathers’ observations, ways in which people around them were helpful. The fathers appreciated written notes or spoken words from other people …

Robin Williams’ daughter helps Luke Perry’s daughter deal with online bullies

Luke Perry’s daughter is getting support from someone who knows exactly what she is going through. Earlier this month, Sophie Perry , 18, lashed out on Instagram at people who criticized the way she was mourning the death of her father . “So to those of you shaming me …

Earlier this month, Sophie Perry, 18, lashed out on Instagram at people who criticized the way she was mourning the death of her father.

“So to those of you shaming me for my language and my wardrobe and most disgustingly, my grieving process, do us both the favor and just unfollow,” she wrote, in part. “It’s a waste of both of our time.”

Robin Williams’ daughter, Zelda, jumped to her defense. Her father died by suicide in 2014.

“There will always be keyboard trolls waiting to tell you how to ‘properly’ publicly mourn to suit their impossibly silly standards, and while I will never understand their reasoning, know that however you decide to for you, that’s completely ok!” Williams commented.

“There are hundreds, THOUSANDS, more supportive people than there are a—- in this world thankfully, but I’ve been there, and that sudden, horrible spotlight at the worst moment of your life SUCKS HARD,” she continued. “Do what YOU need, when you need it, and take care of your heart first. And laugh, as loud and as often as you can. You’ve got this, and when you don’t, the people that love you have got you. Sending you and your family a big hug in this hard time.”

What to Do After The One You Cared for Dies

Diagnosis Rare Diseaseby Denise Crompton, author of “Diagnosis: Rare Disease

The care of a loved one with a debilitating condition often falls to their mother, but fathers, siblings or spouses also may take on that role. Even if there is additional help available, the responsibility of assuring good care will usually be taken on with love by one person. Often, especially in the case of those with rare diseases, the need for care will last for many years.

My oldest daughter’s rare disease was such that she needed extensive care at times over the course of many years, but she also had long stretches of being able to be independent. However, the disease was progressive, so for the final 5 years of her life, she required care on a 24/7 basis.

My major focus during that time was her care. Unlike some with rare conditions, she had normal intelligence, so she was keenly aware of all of the abilities she was losing. It was a very difficult process for her and for those of us who loved her, even though she had the very best medical care as well as spiritual care. When she died, we were all relieved that she no longer suffered intense pain, but we also knew that we would miss her terribly.

The days following her death were busy ones, receiving phone calls, making arrangements for her funeral, clearing out the many medical appliances she had been using, and answering all of the lovely messages that were sent to us. And then… the reality had a chance to really hit. I looked at my husband one day, almost in disbelief, and declared, “We lost our daughter and I lost my job of caring for her.”

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I was left a 30-year-old widower – here is how I survived

Dealing with Death of a Spouse at a Young Age

THERE WERE ONLY three weeks from cancer diagnosis to death.

When you’re 30, you never think something like this will happen to you. This isn’t how it’s meant to be. We had so many plans – things we wanted to do and places we wanted to see.

The thing is that you’re not just grieving the person you’ve lost, but also the future you thought you were going to have with them.

Honestly, it’s hard not to feel like I’ve been robbed. That Kathy was robbed. That our families were robbed.

There is no greater plan here. Giving a 29-year-old woman an aggressive form of cancer that she never had a chance to beat, never even had a chance to fight against, is just so cruel.

Initial bereavement

When I returned to our apartment for the first time, there was a weird sense of comfort, but it also felt utterly surreal. Everything as it was, but at the same time, never will be again.

I also wasn’t sure how I was ‘meant’ to feel. Although society seems to have this narrative around grieving and what to expect, I quickly learned there is no right or wrong way. Everyone handles grief differently…

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How to Deal with Teenage Grief

So grief is like this:

There is a box with a ball in it and a pain button. In the beginning, the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles around on its own in there and hits the button over and over. You can’t control it – it just keeps hurting.

Sometimes it seems unrelenting in the beginning because the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles around on its own in there and hits the button over and over. You can’t control it – it just keeps hurting.

Over time, the ball gets smaller. It hits the button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. It’s better because you can function day to day easier. But, the downside is that the ball randomly hits that button when you least expect it.

For most people, the ball never really goes away. It might hit less and less and you have more time to recover between hits, unlike when the ball was giant. I thought this was the best description of grief I’ve heard in a long time.

I agree I think this is a good description. Often I have teens that I am working with in therapy who worry or are afraid because they think they are grieving wrong. I explain there is no right …

How to Deal With Divorce Grief

9 Tips For Dealing with Divorce

Without a doubt, getting divorced can trigger grief and does for most people. It’s 100% normal to feel a lot of pain about the end of your marriage and all the other losses to go along with getting divorced.

Yet feeling miserable isn’t where you want to stay. You want to move on with your life and you know that there are stages to grief. Yet you just can’t seem to stop crying or sighing or feeling lost in the overwhelming sadness.

Dealing with grief is complicated – especially when you’re grieving divorce because there aren’t social norms for you (or your family and friends) to follow to help you get through your divorce grief.

So if you’re ready to begin dealing with your grief so you can move on with your life, you’re going to have to take matters into your own hands. Now it’s not quite as difficult as it sounds if you just follow these 9 tips:

2. Lean on your friends and family for support.

Your friends and family love you and want to support you through this major life transition you’re facing, but they don’t really know how. You’re going to have to get specific with them about what you need – to talk, to receive a hug, to cook a meal for you and your kids. Ask for what you need and you’ll be surprised at how much love you’ll receive. However, your friends and family can’t be your only support system.

3. Join a divorce support group.

The people who are in these groups know EXACTLY what dealing with grief about divorce is like because they’re on the same journey. Interacting with others who get what you’re going through can be incredibly comforting because you’ll quickly realize you’re not quite as alone as you …

Here’s How To Help a Child Grieve

Parenting coach and columnist Meghan Leahy answered questions recently in a Washington Post online chat. Here is an edited excerpt. Q: My husband, son and I moved in with my parents when my mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer to help with everyday tasks. My son was 2½ […]

Q: My husband, son and I moved in with my parents when my mom was diagnosed with Stage 4 cancer to help with everyday tasks. My son was 2½ years old. My mom just died and my son is 3½. I talked with my son after she died and explained that she was sick and her body stopped working. Every time I explain, he gets upset and says she is at the doctor and will come home soon. Sometimes I explain multiple times a week because something will remind him of my mom. Sometimes I get upset, and then he gets upset. Sometimes I just respond by saying Grandma is at the doctor because it’s too upsetting to keep saying she’s gone. Do you have any advice?

 

A: Grief is a process. It’s a lifelong, never-ending process. And although that sounds depressing, here’s the good news: If you keep feeling your feelings, grief changes from sharp and stabbing to dull and achy to twingey. Sometimes it bounces back to dull and achy and even sharp, but the trajectory is a sort of mental and emotional detente. All humans are built to deal with death because this is the gig: We all die. Biology or God or whatever would not have built us without helping us adapt to this reality. So, be good to yourself.

As for your son, a 3½-year-old lives completely in the moment. The future is not important; the past is gone. And because of this, he simply cannot grasp that his grandmother is gone. His mind can hold on to the fact that she often went to doctors, and he can conceptualize that because he also sometimes visits doctors. Other than that? He lived with

Meghan McCain Talks ‘Horrible’ Grief and Coping With Her Father’s Death: ‘I’m in Therapy’

Meghan and the late politician were extremely close, she says, sharing that they spoke up to seven times a day and still has the impulse to reach for her phone and call him.

“I wake up groggy sometimes and have this impulse to call him, which I have done… but he’s not answering,” Meghan sadly retells. “I feel like I’ve lost a part of my body, like I’ve had something amputated. I know that sounds dramatic.”

While he may no longer be by her side, Meghan did share that before his death he gave her some sound advice. “You need to be tough. You need to speak out. You need to speak for the things you believe in,” she shares.

She did just that at her father’s funeral, where she made headlines for her passionate eulogy, which also took jabs at President Donald Trump, whose daughter, Ivanka, and her husband, Jared Kushner, were at the service.

“I know he would have loved it,” she said of the eulogy. “I know it sounds strange. But when I got up and walked to the lectern, I saw his casket and said to myself: ‘Stay with me, stay with me, stay with me…’ And I felt him with me.”

She also admits that she didn’t know whether Ivanka and her husband were invited or they just showed up. “I didn’t know they were coming, I didn’t know until I saw them there.” Meghan recalls. “I looked over and saw them and well… they got to listen to what I had to say.”

While she’s continued to speak out on her grief via social media or on The View, Meghan notes that to help her feel closer to her father, she “sleeps with his sweatshirt.”

Here’s How You Can Help a Loved One Cope with Suicide

Four years ago, Ankita Shah* lost her father to suicide. For a long time after his death, she was in shock and felt lonely despite the support of her immediate family. It was only after she began seeing a mental health professional that her emotional state improved.

In India, more than 2.3 lakh people die due to suicide each year which means more than two lakh families have stories like Ankita’s. Their stories follow similar patterns: loneliness, shame, social stigma and isolation, guilt and several unanswered questions.

The stigma runs deep, and insensitive remarks are common after such a death.

Milind and Manisha Mhaiskar highlighted this in 2017, through an open letter they wrote to their deceased son in a newspaper.

Some said you were very strict with him, some said you gave too much liberty, could he not carry on with the burden of expectations?… Some said both [parents] are so busy, they may not be giving him time… you, me and mammu [mother], that was our world, how do we tell that to people?

Such comments can explain why not everyone is as candid as the Mhaiskar family. Ankita, for instance, didn’t want to speak about her father initially, and friends and family also kept a distance. This is why, she believes, it is time to talk about suicide. “If we are more open, we help people cope with their loss, and we help erase the shame,” says Ankita.