Our Hospice of South Central Indiana offers a Bereavement camp for children

Register by Sept. 9, 2019

Children who have experienced grief over the death of a person in their life can attend a camp to help them cope.

Our Hospice of South Central Indiana is offering Camp Eva, a half-day bereavement camp for children ages 5-12, 11:30 a.m. to 5 p.m. Sept. 14.

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Any child who has experienced the death of a significant person or persons in their lives is welcome and encouraged to attend. Camp Eva provides a structured and supportive environment for children to openly share their feelings and memories of their loved one.

Camp Eva will be at Columbus Youth Camp at 12454 West Youth Camp Road in Columbus.

Registration is open now and pre-registration is required by Sept. 9.

Registration materials are available on the Our Hospice website www.crh.org/service-centers/hospice/our-hospice-news-events/our-hospice-news/2019/06/03/camp-eva-bereavement-camp-for-kids-on-september-9-2019. A one hour parent/caregiver meeting is included as part of the camp.

Questions can be directed to Jessica Curd at 812-314-8044 or jcurd@crh.org.

Grief Help: TN Camp Helps Children of Fallen Soldiers Cope With Grief

Lorimar Cintron was 11 years old when her daddy died in a Boston hospital after being gravely wounded during an attack in Baghdad, where he served his country as an Army specialist.

Losing him is never far from her heart or mind, yet she has learned to stand on her own young feet and to help others like her.

Cintron is now a mentor at A Soldier’s Child Foundation, which offers care and consideration to children whose parents gave their lives in the line of duty.

The group runs an annual summer camp in Tennessee, where kids learn to conquer their fears and sadness by conquering the elements.

“First year I came to Journey Camp as a camper, I went through a really rough time in my life, and it really helped me spiritually and emotionally, and then after I was done, I realized how many people actually cared about me,” she said…

Grief Help: Using Writing to Help Us Process Our Sorrow

Using Writing to Help Us Process Our GriefEight months after John died, Neustadter started sending emails to his old Yahoo address, because “communicating with John was truly the only thing I wanted to do at that time,” she said. It gave her a way to keep the conversation alive.

“And it felt symbolic and ritualistic to send an actual letter out somewhere into the unknown,” Neustadter said.

Neustadter also used writing to make sense of John’s suicide—why did he turn to suicide? what signs did she miss? She wrote down everything about John that she could remember.

Writing gave Neustadter “some sense of purpose.” She wanted to write the book she wished she’d had: “a book about a young woman, effectively widowed at 29, struggling to make sense of the loss of her soul mate and why he took his life. There were a lot of parts to this, and I had a lot of questions. None of the books on grief that I found helped me with understanding how to navigate my loss.”

“If I could offer other women (or men) like myself a book that made them feel less alone and helped them navigate through traumatic grief, then maybe, just maybe, it would make my experience of John’s death worthwhile in some way.”

More on this Grief Help….

I’ve Been to the Edge of Darkness

Sudden Loss: How to Cope When a Friend Dies SuddenlyI’ve been to the edge of darkness
in a world of endless nights.
I’ve seen what tragedy looks like
in the harshest corners of life.
And I’ve come back to tell you
that living is worth the fight.
We were not born to let darkness
overpower our inner light.
We exist to burn like stars
and illuminate the night.

~ Christy Ann Martine

Why Overcoming Divorce Grief Is So Hard

Divorce is complicated (and it sucks) because you’re faced with seemingly non-stop social, emotional, legal, financial, and the everyday challenges of your new life. Everything changes and not always for the better — at least at first. Of course, all these changes trigger grief which you may think you understand because you’ve grieved before. But overcoming divorce grief is completely different from getting over any other type of grief.

It’s different because you’re constantly reminded of the losses — and there are a lot of things you lose when you divorce. You lose your status as a spouse. You lose time with your kids. You lose the financial means you had together. You lose friends. You lose your dreams for the future.

You lose so very many things that you’ll subtly and obviously be reminded of…

  • when you look at your beautiful child and see the resemblance to your ex…

Grieving? How to Heal Yourself

One of life’s most difficult challenges is dealing with grief, the feeling of sadness over the loss of someone or something significant. Although grief is normal, the pain can be overwhelming, and the sorrow so profound that it defies description. You wonder if you can ever heal yourself.

The most common causes of grief are the death of a loved one, divorce or breakup, diagnosis of a grave illness, and loss of a job. You’ll experience a plethora of emotions, such as anger, despondency, guilt, anguish, and despair. The intensity and duration of grief differ in each situation. The death of a child can bring on excruciating pain that may diminish over time but never go away while an aging parent’s demise is expected, making the loss more acceptable…

Take your time and put major life decisions on hold.

The grieving process is fraught with emotions that can interfere with your rational decision-making mind. You might regret impulsive actions, such as moving to another place, getting married again too soon, or suing the boss who sacked you.

Learn about “The Road to Recovery” here

Facing Death

tears grief childBy Timothy Kelley (All Star Press / GriefHelp.org is thankful and honored to be allowed to re-print this blog posting)

The reality of death is a confrontational foe – or in some cases a friend – that never ceases to knock on the door of our human consciousness. Its looming presence is kept at bay for much of our life until we are given windows into the eternal while attending a funeral service or possibly when receiving an ominous doctor’s report. There is only one weapon we can use when coming face to face with mankind’s greatest enemy—faith.

Paul exhorted the church at Corinth to walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7) in relation to life in time and space as well as our eternal state. With the loss of a close loved one, sight and feelings are more often than not our dominant means of perception. We know how we are supposed to think, it’s just that our feelings and our thinking are out of sync.

Probably the most referred to chapter in the Bible on the subject of faith is found in Hebrews Chapter 11. The chapter starts like this:
(1) Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. (2) For by it the elders obtained a good report. (3) Through faith we understand that the worlds were framed by the word of God, so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear. (Hebrews 11:1-3)

This chapter speaks much about death. These “heroes of faith” all died without the promise they looked forward to throughout their lives. The promise was Jesus Christ living in the hearts of the believer and His kingdom reign on earth. Faith is needed in death more than any other time in life – not for those who have died, but for us – those left behind. Those of us trying to make sense as we swim in the abyss of grief and loss. Let’s look at faith’s relationship with death.

The Road to Recovery by Rich Nilsen

Faith faces death squarely in the face. A famous quote says, “Where there is life there is hope.” We can say by faith, “Where there is death, there is hope.” The believer sees death for what it is – the passing of one life directly into the next. There is no cessation of life, simply a transformation of life. We understand that when we or our loved one passes, life does not cease; it transforms into a larger, far greater existence. Faith always sees a bigger picture in the death of one of God’s saints.

Faith takes death seriously. Though we are Christians, we are still human. God wired us to love and to grieve. Faith allows us to be humans; it is ok to experience and express grief. It does not reveal a lack of faith; it reveals just the opposite. It reveals one who is comfortable with who God has created them to be, and how he has created them to be. The person of faith embraces the fact that the loss of those close to us will forever alter the landscape of our lives. Yet, though the loss is great and the grief is real, God still has a plan and purpose for our life in the here and now. There is also an understanding that God’s plan on earth for the deceased has be fulfilled and completed also. The man or woman of faith knows that in the big picture of God’s eternal scheme, this loss has a purpose attached to it. Thus death, though not welcome, can be accepted.

“There is only one weapon we can use when coming face to face with mankind’s greatest enemy — faith.” – Timothy Kelley


Editor’s Note: Timothy Kelley is Pastor of Grace Connection Church in St. Petersburg, FL.   Pastor Kelley lost his beautiful 20-year-old daughter Hannah Grace Kelley last month in a freak accident that received national news coverage. She passed on Feb. 18, 2012. How does a man of true faith handle the worst of tragedies? Click the YouTube video link below to view the memorial service for Hannah. Scroll to the 18:24 mark to hear Pastor Kelley give his daughter’s eulogy – the hardest thing any father would have to do in their lifetime.

How Do You Survive After the Death of a Child


What to Say and Not Say to Someone Grieving a Suicide

It can be hard to know what to say to a person in the thicket of grief; when someone is grieving a loved one’s suicide, the right words — any words, even — can feel all the more elusive and fraught. Suicide can leave survivors racked with anger, […]

“Don’t place value judgments on the suicide, such as ‘It was a selfish choice, a sin, an act of weakness, or a lack of faith or love or strength,’” Ms. Posnien said.

Tracy Roberts, a writer who lost her sister to suicide, explored this in her essay “Suicide Etiquette”: “After Amy killed herself,” she writes, “someone said, by way of comforting me, ‘Suicide is the coward’s way out.’ Besides being an inane truism, this pronouncement indicted the sister I was mourning. How was that supposed to console?”

I’ve had people say similar things to me, and while I appreciate that their comments were coming from a good (and devastated) place, such judgments made me feel defensive and all the more anxious and bereft.

Grieving? A Twist on Social Media and Using It to Your Benefit

Social media taught me how to grieve on Mother’s Day

My mother was killed in a car accident when I was in middle school. For those of us who have lost our mother figures or have strained relationships with them, social media on Mother’s Day is a punch to the gut. Here’s how I now use the internet to […]

Pre-Instagram-era, Mother’s Day was just a day in May in which I would shut my door to the world, indulge in my saddest music and memories, and give myself a break for eating cookie dough directly from the roll. The next day was business as usual. But thanks to Instagram and Facebook, I’m now highly aware of how friends, colleagues—even influencers I’ve never met—are embracing the day.

Never one to be left out, I’ve devised a strategy of sorts over the years…

Grief Counselor Offers Support Tips to Deal with Tragedy

LAUREL, MS (WDAM) – Licensed professional counselor Paula Davis said she understands what it means to lose a child tragically.

“My daughter’s been deceased for 15 years and I still have moments where I don’t want to leave and I don’t want to do anything,” said Davis.

Neighbors living around the Laurel High School area are still trying to process the death of a 7-year-old boy to a tragic accident Monday night.

Cox said at the moment, charges will not be pressed due to the circumstances surrounding the incident. He descried it as a “tragic accident.”

Davis said based on her own personal experiences, she suggests people express their emotions when it comes to grieving.

“Cry as much as you need to cry,” said Davis. “You know, the more you cry, the less you’ll have to cry but go through the process. My daughter has been deceased for 15 years and I still have moments where I don’t want to leave and I don’t want to do anything. So, you process and you go on.”

“You go through ‘If I did anything wrong’ or ‘Was I the best parent?’” said Davis. “It’s common to go through those. It’s like the five stages of grief where you go through the denial part first. There’s the anger. Then there’s bargaining. Then you go through depression. Then, there’s acceptance…