Drive-In Vigil to Provide Support to Loved Ones of Those Lost to Suicide

September 10th is World Suicide Prevention Day

Thursday, 10th September, ‘World Suicide Prevention Day’, will see the world’s first pop up drive-in cinema being erected by START a mental health charity, in Salford, to mark World Suicide Prevention Day with their annual Vigil of Remembrance. The Vigil of Remembrance will also be broadcast in a worldwide live stream by the charity.

An online YouGov survey, commissioned by the UK’s leading funeral provider Co-op Funeralcare, shows that in the weeks following the start of the UK’s lockdown on 23rd March, 47% of bereaved adults in Manchester have been denied their final farewell. The grief process is always difficult. But a loss through suicide is like no other, and grieving can be especially complex and traumatic. People coping with this kind of loss often need more support than others, but may get less.

What to Say to Someone Grieving … or Not Say

Death by suicide, even more than other types of bereavement, makes many people uncomfortable and unsure how to react. There is still a stigma attached to suicide, rooted in centuries of history and this generates misplaced associations of weakness, blame, shame or even sin or crime. This stigma can prevent people from seeking help when they need it and others from offering support …

Six Steps to Help Prevent Suicide – a great read from GriefHelp.org.

Faith Fuels this Dairy Family During Grief

The Neahrings, a longtime dairying family in Tillamook County, have seen enough grief and disaster in their lives to make anyone throw in the towel.

In 1984, less than six years after Steve’s father, Donald, moved his operation from Minnesota to Oregon, Donald died and the family sold the dairy.

Later, shortly after they were married, Steve and Lynda purchased their dairy property a few miles away.

Then, in 1996, a flood hit that property at the confluence of the North Fork and main stem of the Nehalem River. The Neahrings lost more than 100 cows — two-thirds of their herd.

Neighbors and many others pitched in to help stack and haul away carcasses, donated food and cattle, helped clean up the mess and rebuilt the houses.

Twelve years later, Steve and Lynda Neahring lost their son, Nathan, 18, in …

You’re Not Alone. Grieving Loss From Afar

Last week I received an unexpected call from my mother. Gakii, one of my dearest friends from childhood in Kenya had died. With suspicions that it’s a COVID case and only limited information from doctors about “cause of death”, no one is really sure what happened.

And so, we grieve in the unknown. We grieve without information. This is the second death news I’ve received in a space of two months. The first was my Juju (great grandma). I stubbornly refused to mourn her and just disappeared into denial, only mentioning it to my partner several days after my father wrote to inform me. I did not want condolences. I just longed for home. For anything familiar, certain or comforting.

Six Steps to Preventing Suicide

The fondest memory I have of my juju was when she came to my graduation ceremony almost 10 years ago. She removed an old and tattered 100 Kenya shilling note ($1 and 50 cents equivalent) from her brassiere. She spat on it three times as a symbol of sanctifying the money, cupped it tightly on her fist and gave it to me. She told me I was the light of my family and offered me a generational blessing…

What To Say and Not To Say To Someone Who’s Grieving

Do be present

You don’t necessarily need to have the right words, but showing up with a willingness to talk about the person who died is crucial. Abdullah says that instead of trying to make someone feel better, really being there and allowing them to feel pain is more effective. “Letting them know that whatever they’re feeling is okay and it makes sense, because as people metabolize grief, they go through many different experiences. [That’s] any reaction, or any expression of any emotion—or a lack of expression or emotion, because some people may not express grief outwardly or in the conventional way we think of grief as sadness. So holding space and reminding them that what they’re feeling is okay.”

The Road to Recovery – A Grief Support Guide in e-book form

Do use the name of the person who died

“I think people get the sense that we don’t want to talk about the person that died but actually, when you’re grieving, you want to know that the person is not forgotten,” Abdullah says. Sharing stories and memories of the person who died, or things you loved about them or things that reminded you of them can be helpful. While Warnick acknowledges there are, of course, exceptions and nothing she says will be true for 100 percent of people across the board, she does find that the vast majority of people do not want the person who died to be forgotten and welcome the opportunity to be able to talk about them—though they might not want to have to take the lead.

“When my dad died, one of my colleagues said to me, ‘Andrea, I never met your dad,..

How to Talk to Your Children about Death and Grief

With the surge of the Corona virus, many families are losing their loved ones at an alarming rate. Death is a sad reality and while we as adults struggle with the concept of death, it can be even worse for children. That is why as parents we tend to shield them from the truth, thinking they do not have an idea of what is happening around us. But children are aware and they can sense our emotions.

When single mom Nonzwakazi Cekete lost her partner four years ago to a bike accident, she was confused how she was gone to break the news to her then six and seven-year-old. Besides struggling with the grief, herself, she was having a tough time whether to tell the truth or just say he had gone somewhere far and would come back. “I just couldn’t bring myself to tell them the truth but I could tell from their stares that they wanted the truth. The people …

Speaking Grief Documentary Available Nationwide for free beginning Aug. 30

UNIVERSITY PARK, Pa. — At some point in life, we all grieve. The loss of loved ones, relationships, pets, jobs —things big and small. But often, we don’t understand that what we’re feeling is grief or don’t know what to do for a friend or family member who might be going through a difficult time.

That’s why a WPSU Penn State documentary about the reality of grief is so important for people, according to WPSU senior producer Lindsey Whissel Fenton, who produced, directed and wrote the film.

“We’re all grieving something right now, and these collective griefs show we all have a stake in this work,” she said. “This documentary introduces concepts that, hopefully, will help us make sense of our own grief and respond to the experiences of others with compassion and authenticity.”

“Speaking Grief” will be available nationwide for free, on-demand viewing beginning Sunday, Aug. 30, through WPSU’s YouTube pagethe Speaking Grief website and PBS Video app, which is available on mobile devices and streaming platforms such as Chromecast, Amazon Fire, Roku, Amazon Fire TV, Android TV, Samsung TV and Apple TV.

“Speaking Grief” explores the reality of grief and offers guidance on how people can do a better job supporting those who are grieving. The documentary features candid interviews with families across the country — from California, New York, Pennsylvania and Texas — whose losses include stillbirth and suicide….

Living with Grief – A Coach’s Perspective

How to handle adversity when nothing goes your way. How to lift others up when it feels like the world is tearing you down. How to stay devoted to your passion when it’s a constant reminder of who or what you’ve lost. And how to be vulnerable when everyone expects you to be guarded.

Anderson experienced grief unlike any he’d faced before.

“It was a year full of tears,” said Anderson’s mom, Donna. “And prayer was our only hope.”

He coped with the loss of two of his best friends in his wife and father, leaning on family, friends, players and coaches as he navigated crippling heartache.

And through it all, Anderson stayed true to himself and his beliefs. He’s a man of deep-rooted Christian faith, and he’s not afraid to share that. That faith never wavered.

It intensified…

Suicide Risk Rises Sharply. 6 Steps to Help Prevent Suicide

The Covid-19 pandemic has put mental health for so many people at great risk.  Here are a few quick steps to get yourself on firmer footing.

  1. Get off social media.  The correlation between depression and anxiety and heavy social media usage is well documented.
  2. Explore nature.  Get out and enjoy God’s good earth.
  3. Walk every day.   Just a 30 minute walk goes a long way towards good health, physically and mentally.
  4. Socialize.  Make real social connections… in person.
  5. Read every day.  If you’re a Christian, start your morning each day by reading’s God’s Word.
  6. Start a Gratitude Journal.  If you’re reading this, you’re likely better off than 99% of the world’s population.  You have many blessings.  It helps to write them down and review them each morning or at bed time.

“A startling report released Thursday by the CDC found that 10.7% of Americans reported seriously contemplating suicide in the 30 days before the survey, issued over the last week of June, was conducted.

Grief Help logoThat’s in contrast to the 4.3% who reported the same thing over the course of 2018. The percentages were far higher in certain populations, including ethnic and racial minorities, and essential workers.

The report, which surveyed 5,412 Americans, also found that about a quarter had symptoms of anxiety and about the same percentage had symptoms of depression.”

Read the rest about the rising suicide risk due to Covid-19 pandemic decisions.

A widow’s memories bring grief, comfort

I often think of our last day together. We walked our dog, Lui, a Jack Russell terrier who would run in mad circles around the football field behind the Town Office building. This day, though, Lui stayed leashed and we moved slowly. Abe was in home hospice care, his heart functioning at 10%.

But he was upbeat.

“I feel stronger today,” he said. “I think I can walk a bit farther each day.”

More from a widow’s memories:

Is that grief or depression you’re experiencing due to COVID-19?

Ronald M. Podell, M.D. Ronald M. Podell, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist with degrees from Amherst College and Columbia University. He is the founder and director of the Center for Bio-Behavioral Science in Los Angeles…

Could you add more to what you just shared about grieving to help people try to figure out whether they may be depressed or grieving right now?

Grieving is a natural reaction to loss and is often unpleasant. Family and friends may be intolerant of the bad feelings coming from a distressed person. I try to help people work through grief or anxiety and despair without drugs whenever possible. However, if I believe the grieving process is becoming pathological and it isn’t healing, I’ll prescribe medications that address the abnormal brain chemistry that occurs in mood and anxiety disorders.

I must then carefully observe the patient and employ psychological methods that help treat the mood or anxiety disorder. A professional is needed to discern between normal grief, sadness, stress reactions and a major depressive episode. There are specialists within psychiatry who are adept at using medications and are called psychopharmacologists.

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