Remembering 2 Young Women Shot at Movies

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LAFAYETTE, La. (AP) – One was a talented artist who sang in an all-female band and planted trees to beautify her neighborhood. Another was studying to be a radiology technician and looking forward to a future with a longtime boyfriend. Jillian Johnson, 33, and Mayci Breaux, 21, were shot and killed last Thursday while watching the… [Read more…]

Use Grief To Re-evaluate What You Value in Others

 I broke up with my boyfriend this week. I’d thought he was “the one” and tried to make it work. Two weeks ago, my best friend (male) died. Then I discovered my boyfriend has feelings for his widow. Worse, he’d been secretly sleeping (supposedly on the couch) in her home for several nights. I’ve ceased all… [Read more…]

Grief Help: Care For Depression, Anxiety Helps War-Exposed Children

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(Reuters Health) – Treating depression and anxiety in youngsters affected by war may have lasting benefits for their mental health and ability to function in society, new findings suggest. The study, of former child soldiers and other young people affected by Sierra Leone’s civil war, found that those with higher levels of anxiety and depression two… [Read more…]

How to Cope with Grief in the Workplace

NEW YORK (AP) – The sudden passing of Dave Goldberg, the popular Silicon Valley executive and husband of Facebook’s Sheryl Sandberg, touches a subject most workers probably don’t consider until they have to. In the U.S., many companies offer a few days’ paid leave after the death of a close family member. But grieving is a…
EL DORADO SPRINGS, Mo., Aug. 25, 2014 /PRNewswire/ — A loss of a child is a life-changing trauma that many may not be able to bear or even move on from. For J. Brent Bland, it inspired him to write a book and share his experience to all, so others may find hope and inspiration as…

His Tragedy Becomes an Inspiration to Many

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One of the Strongest Woman in the World and Her Life Now

by Rich Nilsen

Madonna Badger.  You may remember her in the news a couple of years ago.  She was the woman whose house burned down on Christmas morning, taking the lives of all three daughters as well as both of her parents.  This was one of the most heart-breaking stories ever reported in our national news – certainly that I could ever recall.

This incredible woman recently penned a piece for Vogue Magazine, explaining the details of the tragedy and more importantly, how she has moved on after being dealt an ‘unimaginable’ hand.

Read The Long Road Back: How to Keep Going After the Unimaginable Happens by one of the strongest woman in the world, and please keep this brave woman in your prayers.

 

5 Ways to Deal with Grief Recovery Setbacks

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by Ryan Rivera

One of the most difficult aspects of grief recovery is the fact that the process of grieving is a highly individualized process. Because the grief process is different for every person, it is impossible to know, for example, how much time it will take for your grief to abate, the severity of its psychological effects, and most of all the triggers that can cause you to regress to an earlier, more painful state.

Recovery setbacks can happen at any time: you may still have been hurting when you were pushed into a deepened state of distress, or you may even have finally begun to feel normal again when you unexpectedly found yourself experiencing an emotional breakdown. Whatever your situation, the following guide will help you to prevent any unwanted consequences that your emotional setback might result in and minimize the damage to yourself and others.

Managing Your Grief Setback in a Healthy Manner

There are good strategies and bad strategies for dealing with grief setbacks. Bad strategies like becoming disappointed with yourself, blaming others, hiding your feelings and shutting yourself away are dangerous for your health and may ultimately result in further psychological damage.

Outlined below are 5 good strategies for dealing with recovery setbacks.

  • Acknowledge the Experience – The worst thing you can do is to try and deny to yourself (or hide from others) the fact that you are undergoing a painful experience. Even if you are trying to present a stoic and/or healthy face to the world, resisting or pushing down your pain will only cause you further distress in the long run. Be honest with yourself and with others, because the more you are able to support yourself internally, and the more the people around you understand what is going on in your life, the stronger and better able to cope you will be.
  • Keep to Familiar Routines – When you experience a grief setback, your emotions are unexpectedly knocked off-balance. To regain a sense of balance and psychologically reassure yourself that your life is stable, try and stick to regular daily activities. These can be simple as waking up at a certain hour every day, eating your meals on time, or making daily journal entries of your thoughts and activities. It may not seem like much, but your body will be unconsciously reassured and react by helping you to heal more quickly.
  • Spend Time With Supportive People – Whether they are family, a close friend, a therapist or a counselor, people who will listen to you with sympathy and treat you gently are crucial during a setback. In addition to reminding you that you are cared for, being around supportive people when you are going through a difficult time will help you stay aware of your own behavior in comparison to others and avoid slipping into unhealthy habits.
  • Focus on the Present – To prevent yourself from shutting reality out and retreating too deeply into your suffering, notice the world around you. Wherever you happen to be: in a grocery store, walking through a park, or just lying in bed, notice the sounds, smells, colors and textures of the world in the present moment without assigning them any value, good or bad, and simply “be” in the moment.
  • Seek Help – Even if you are using the four above methods and starting to feel better, you may still need to find someone professional to talk to. If funds are an issue for you, be sure and search for free services offered in your community, by phone or on internet sites devoted to mental health, which often offer live chat sessions (via instant messaging or webcam) with trained professionals. Help is available to you—all you need to do is ask.

Recovering from grief is a process that requires patience, strength and support. You have all these things, no matter who you are. By maintaining a healthy mindset and engaging in healthy activities, you will have set yourself back on the road towards recovery.

— Ryan Rivera has seen the incredible way that grief causes anxiety and stress. He writes about anxiety to help others at www.calmclinic.com.

Are You Troubled? Are Life Circumstances Getting You Down?

(this support article is not part of the Road to Recovery book)

     Everyone faces issues in their lives, one form or another. Oftentimes, you may feel great anxiety or despair or fear or some other type of depression. This is only natural but knowing that will not comfort you. I believe there is one simple solution to this very scary situation.

I know because it has worked for me. I believe it will work for you because I have been called to share this with you.

The next time you encounter one of these scary feelings, do the following:

Ask aloud for the Lord Jesus to help you. Ask aloud for the Holy Spirit to bring you peace. Believe and have faith that God will bring you this comfort.

There have been several times in my life where I had the wisdom to do this. In those cases I was enveloped by God’s peace, which quickly brought me comfort and washed away my fears. This is a tremendous feeling, let me assure you.

You don’t have to know or believe in the Holy Spirit or Jesus for this to work. Specifically ask Them to help you and they will.

Is it really this simple? Yes, it is. I have had great anxiety in my life, not just from the death of my wife in a tragic accident. God may not answer prayers for you to win the lottery, but in a time of need, he will calm the storm raging in your mind.

 

 

Contact the Author of “The Road to Recovery.”   He is here to offer you comfort and support in your difficult time.

The Road to Recovery

Overcoming & Moving Beyond Your Grief

The author lost his college sweetheart and wife of four and a half years in a plane crash in 1997. The first version of this book was written for and distributed free of charge to the families and friends of the Sept. 11th victims. It has now been updated and released for the first time for the Kindle and all e-book formats.

In “The Road to Recovery” Nilsen addresses that when you lose someone very dear to you, you come to a crossroads in your life. Nilsen understands full well the deep sorrow you feel and can provide comfort and help. He wrote this book to get you on the right path, and off the road filled with despair, regrets, and deep sorrow.

“The Road to Recovery” is full of helpful advice and resources to guide through this turbulent time, and make sure you get on the road to a better life.

“I lost my son in the World Trade Center [on Sept. 11] and I found your book so comforting.” – Patricia Noah, mother of Leonard M. Castrianno, Cantor Fitzgerald, 105th floor WTC.

If you or someone you love is dealing with sorrow, this book will be of great comfort and offer invaluable advice that you can begin to apply today.

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TESTIMONIALS

“I just read The Road to Recovery. It was so informative. I am founder and director of a bereavement support group for parents who have lost a child.” – Ann Carruci, HANDS (Healing and Nurturing Distraught Survivors)

“We would love to get a copy of The Road to Recovery and see if we can incorporate it into our resource materials in some way. Again, I want to thank you for developing this material and for your incredible effort to reach out to those suffering from the 9/11 disaster.” – April Naturale, N.Y. State Director, Project Liberty.

“Be assured that we will have your support guides distributed to those who have lost a loved one in the tragedy of Sept. 11th. Thank you for all you have done to help alleviate some of the pain borne by loved ones of those who died on September 11th.” – Rev. Msgr. Gregory Mustaciuolo, Secretary to His Eminence, Edward Cardinal Egan

“The contents are amazing and profound. Your words rang loud and true when I read them. Wish I had found this book earlier.” – Terry Welch, sister to Michael Ryan lost on Comair flight 5196, Aug. 27, 2006.

“This book contains so many insightful, appropriate and helpful ideas and suggestions. God bless you.” – Kelly Markillie, pastoral counselor at The Cathedral of Christ The King, Atlanta, GA.