Why Overcoming Divorce Grief Is So Hard

Divorce is complicated (and it sucks) because you’re faced with seemingly non-stop social, emotional, legal, financial, and the everyday challenges of your new life. Everything changes and not always for the better — at least at first. Of course, all these changes trigger grief which you may think you understand because you’ve grieved before. But overcoming divorce grief is completely different from getting over any other type of grief.

It’s different because you’re constantly reminded of the losses — and there are a lot of things you lose when you divorce. You lose your status as a spouse. You lose time with your kids. You lose the financial means you had together. You lose friends. You lose your dreams for the future.

You lose so very many things that you’ll subtly and obviously be reminded of…

  • when you look at your beautiful child and see the resemblance to your ex…

How to Deal With Divorce Grief

9 Tips For Dealing with Divorce

Without a doubt, getting divorced can trigger grief and does for most people. It’s 100% normal to feel a lot of pain about the end of your marriage and all the other losses to go along with getting divorced.

Yet feeling miserable isn’t where you want to stay. You want to move on with your life and you know that there are stages to grief. Yet you just can’t seem to stop crying or sighing or feeling lost in the overwhelming sadness.

Dealing with grief is complicated – especially when you’re grieving divorce because there aren’t social norms for you (or your family and friends) to follow to help you get through your divorce grief.

So if you’re ready to begin dealing with your grief so you can move on with your life, you’re going to have to take matters into your own hands. Now it’s not quite as difficult as it sounds if you just follow these 9 tips:

2. Lean on your friends and family for support.

Your friends and family love you and want to support you through this major life transition you’re facing, but they don’t really know how. You’re going to have to get specific with them about what you need – to talk, to receive a hug, to cook a meal for you and your kids. Ask for what you need and you’ll be surprised at how much love you’ll receive. However, your friends and family can’t be your only support system.

3. Join a divorce support group.

The people who are in these groups know EXACTLY what dealing with grief about divorce is like because they’re on the same journey. Interacting with others who get what you’re going through can be incredibly comforting because you’ll quickly realize you’re not quite as alone as you …

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