Dealing with Death of a Spouse at a Young Age
THERE WERE ONLY three weeks from cancer diagnosis to death.
When you’re 30, you never think something like this will happen to you. This isn’t how it’s meant to be. We had so many plans – things we wanted to do and places we wanted to see.
The thing is that you’re not just grieving the person you’ve lost, but also the future you thought you were going to have with them.
Honestly, it’s hard not to feel like I’ve been robbed. That Kathy was robbed. That our families were robbed.
There is no greater plan here. Giving a 29-year-old woman an aggressive form of cancer that she never had a chance to beat, never even had a chance to fight against, is just so cruel.
Initial bereavement
When I returned to our apartment for the first time, there was a weird sense of comfort, but it also felt utterly surreal. Everything as it was, but at the same time, never will be again.
I also wasn’t sure how I was ‘meant’ to feel. Although society seems to have this narrative around grieving and what to expect, I quickly learned there is no right or wrong way. Everyone handles grief differently…
